This is a part two of four about my personal letter to my prince.
Take Care of Yourself
Let me touch on personal health. It’s okay to ask for help when you are dealing with or going through something. There is a stupid stigma that our people won’t seek help when dealing with things – don’t believe the hype! You’re not being weak if you ask for help. It’s ok to be vulnerable. Remember to take care of yourself mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. All these are tied together with one another. I had an issue with sex controlling my life from the age of 11 and I don’t want that for you.
Sex is an addictive drug and it takes years to learn how to control your urges. You will go around chasing the high while hurting those who love you. Each time you are looking for the feeling of the first time. It’s like a lion on a prairie searching for the next gazelle to conquer. The chase is quick, but you must be willing to have self-control. I will tell you this my son, take responsibility for your actions and the consequences that may come with them. I’ve had two abortions while I was in college and they emotionally scarred me. I’ve had to face my decisions head on and it was hard. Don’t take the easy way out because I did twice. Consequently, I didn’t feel the effect of my decision until years later and it took some serious counseling to get over it.
Don’t forget to take care of your financial health too. Notorious B.I.G. said, “Mo Money Mo Problems. This song nailed it back in the late 90’s. I’ve heard famous people in interviews say that the more you make the more problems come with it. I’ve had my problems with money because the more I got, the more I wanted. “Let your money work for you and you not work for the money.” My uncle told me this. Always pay yourself first and then pay for other things. Once you pay yourself, put the funds towards to your future and invest in building up a retirement account, an emergency fund or saving for other long-term goals.
Paying yourself doesn’t have to be expensive. Treat yourself to a nice dinner, a nice vacation, a nice manicure and pedicure. Yeah, I said it – a nice manicure and pedicure! Take care of your body which includes your hands and feet. You definitely don’t want to be that guy with the flip-flops on in the summer time with the white crust around his heel. Or even having your toenails so long that they start slicing up your bed sheets and yourself, don’t be that guy. I’ve definitely ripped some skin off of my lower legs because of my long toenails. Make sure you take care if your skin, you only get one body so take care of your temple.
Your body works off of what you put in it. Imagine if I gave you a Lamborghini and it needed some gas. As you pull into the gas station, you have three choices of gas regular 87, plus 89, or premium 93. You probably are going to look at the prices and realize that there’s a significant difference between the regular and premium. As a consumer, you have options but those options come with consequences. Putting regular gas in a Lamborghini will cause significant problems the longer the car runs and cost a lot more to fix.
Your body works the same way as the Lamborghini does. What you put into your body can cause positive and negative effect as you grow older. Make sure to eat the proper meals and get some type of physical exercise. Trust me, as you get older the effects of your diet and exercise catches up to you. Invest in some different physical activities such as walking, running, yoga, rock climbing or weightlifting. I wouldn’t tell you to do this if I didn’t incorporate it in my lifestyle. Watch what you eat, it gets harder to shed those pounds once your metabolism slows down.
Invest in yourself in the way you dress and carry yourself. The way you dress does not only reflect the way you feel about yourself, it also sends signals to other people around you. The way you dress can be a direct reflection of your respect for others. Learn to be comfortable in a suit a and how to match colors to coordinate your look. Don’t let “special occasions” like going to court, a job interview or going to church on Easter be the only reason you wear a suit. So many young guys don’t know how to tie a tie or better yet a bow tie. Don’t worry, I’ll teach you how.
I learned how to tie a tie while in JROTC in high school from a guy named Ray. Until this day, I remember working with Ray time after time trying to learn how to tie a tie for two weeks. I will always cherish those moments every time I put on a tie. Invest the time in shopping for clothing that fits and shows your personality. Be respectful and keep your pants around your waist with a belt. There’s no reason you should be sagging! Clothing fads come and go like the water in a river, so find your own style. Son, you will learn that you must take care of yourself first before you can help anyone else and this is true for all aspects of your life.