Most people can remember when Usher released his confessions album back in 2004. When the album dropped it was an instant classic album selling over one million copies in the first week. While the album did well, the media had a field day about some of the lyrics in some of the music. Rumors started that Usher had been unfaithful and had a baby on the way. Usher was dealing with a public relationship with Chilli that didn’t work out. Confessions part I and II tells the story of a man confessing his unfaithfulness to his mate. I’m going to break down some of the lyrics and how it plays a part in your own life
“Now, this gon’ be the hardest thing I think I ever had to do!”
Have you ever had to face something or someone so hard that would couldn’t find the words to actions to do it? I have plenty of times, I’ve had to break the bad news to someone and it didn’t feel good at all. It feels as if a boulder is on your shoulders. Eventually, you faced the thing or person and it felt like a weight was lifted right? Often times we make things out to be harder or bigger than they are. No one likes bad news, but it’s not the hardest thing in the world.
“But I can no longer walk around with this stress on my chest.”
Have you ever internalized anything on the inside not telling anyone? What about keeping a secret held in about a situation or a loved one? I definitely have and it weighed on me for years. One day, I realized it was more harmful to me keeping it in than releasing it. Once it was released, so much stress and weight went away it was like a breath of fresh air. Picture this: You are submerged under water and every time you try to come up for air something is weighing you back down. You get to the point of you feeling the pressure that you about to drown. Then all of a sudden the thing weighing you down gets released and you rise to the top of the water gasping for air. That’s how many people find themselves drowning in stress. All it takes is someone to see or hear you fighting for air to jump in and help you out of the pressure or situation. It only works when you release and no hold on to it. Have you ever seen someone drowning and a lifeguard goes to help save the person? What’re the first words you hear the lifeguard arrives to save a person from drowning? “Relax, I got you” Why do you think they say that? It’s because it calms the person down from their panic and prevents the lifeguard from being consumed in the panic. When you confess things to someone it releases the pressure and the person can help you from drowning in your own stress. I’m a firm believer in seeking help either from a professional therapist, pastor, or friend. Talking about it helps 100 percent. Men need to adapt to confessing the internal stuff we deal with to someone, even if it’s to another brother.
“But it would be even worse if you heard this from somebody else.”
Whew!! Have you ever had some news get out that you didn’t want to be released? How can you face someone who had a secret about you revealed to someone else? That’s definitely awkward position to be in. It’s a tense situation that you can’t just get up and run away from. Trust me running from it is like running around a track, eventually, you have to face it. So back in the early 2000s, I cheated in my Spanish class and I was sent to in-school suspension. I thought it was all cool, I had gotten written up before just not for cheating. I thought I was good after spending my time in ISS. I went home like it was another day in high school and I was good for a few days. Welp my mother found out and as soon as I stepped into the house. Remember the meme” I Was Waiting For You At The Door”. Let’s just say Mama don’t play that. My mom actually found out the same day of the incident when the school called her at work. I never said anything about the incident, but imagine someone else telling your hidden truth to your loved one. It hurts them also to know the information.
JAMES 5:16 Message Version
Make this your common practice: Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you can live together whole and healed.
When you confess to someone it starts the healing process. It also builds relationships with others look at
Proverbs 17:17 Message Version
Friends love through all kinds of weather, and families stick together in all kinds of trouble.
The Confessions album was not just one story but many stories, all in one. In an interview with MTV news, Usher was quoted saying that his friends who went through similar situations inspired him to write those songs on the album and it was something that he collectively got energy from everybody around me that had been through it.”
That lets to the question: What are you going through that you need to confess??
Take the time to analyze that thing you keep holding on to and release the weight of stress.
Check out these quotes:
“God removes the sin of the one who makes humble confession, and thereby the devil loses the sovereignty he had gained over the human heart.”―Saint Bernard
“Turn your wounds into wisdom.”― Oprah Winfrey